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Question

My girlfriend does not routinely have medical check-ups, saying there is no need. How can I persuade her otherwise?

Answer

Many persons believe that a doctor is necessary only when one is sick. Sadly, many people neglect the concept of prevention. This is the justification for your girlfriend going to a doctor. Regular Pap smears and mammograms, for example, are regarded as good preventive care for a woman. You may also want to talk with her about whether her reluctance relates to any bad experiences with medical types. Some women, for example, have complained of rough gynecological exams which disincline them toward further routine checkups.

Finally, though, keep in mind that ultimately you won't be able to control this part of your girlfriend's life. The best you can do ultimately is to express your concern and to keep a dialogue open.

02/15/99