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Question

I am a person who has chosen to follow her own path spiritually. I find my way by being open to the wisdom found in multiple religious perspectives. I am comfortable with this path, but find that I often come under attack from persons who insist that their path is the correct path. Any suggestions on how to cope?

Answer

Finding one's own spiritual path in a manner such as you have is, first of all, a singular act of courage. Keep in mind that persons who come from a narrow spiritual perspective will find your path threatening. It does not offer the "security" of more black-and-white thinking. Thus, you come under attack because your own individual path can stir up fear in others. Keep in mind, too, that many people look for a comfortable religion. Your own approach which emphasizes individual responsibility is not likely to sit well with those who want to be comfortable.

Some of us are called to be prophets, i.e., people who make others uncomfortable by challenging. Try to comfort yourself with the thought that, when you share openly about your beliefs, you may be planting seeds which may take root and grow without you ever knowing about it.

Finally, keep your eyes and ears open for like-minded persons. Such persons may not share your exact set of beliefs but can honor your own honesty and courage. In that way, you can create for yourself a supportive community.

03/15/98

Richard B. Patterson is a clinical psychologist in private practice in El Paso, TX. He is the author of three books on psychology and spirituality.