In all my research, speaking with others who were incested by a relative, male and female. I have never heard anything positive about it. This leads me to be inclined to these observations. 1~Other person's are not being forth righ and honest about their abusive experience. 2~You are in denial big time. Having such a sad experience has warpped your sense of morals and ethics or you never had the ability to develop them in the first place.
*As a side note: Many I have spoken with express confusion and guilt at the natural bodily responses, as their true sense of being, the soul and the intellect of the mind merged healthily, recognises this is not appropiate. Also, I sure woudn't tell your wife. It might be more information than she would want or be able to handle. Just my thought. One question? If you have cildren or did have children. How would you feel if your wife did this? A second question? If you have or did have a daughter would you do this on behalf of sex ed?
* "Thomas Babington Macaulay, 1830's, said:
"The measure of a man's(woman's) real character is what he would do if he knew he would never be found out."