by Richard Raubolt, Ph.D.
To understand, explore and recover from adult traumas is the focus of my blog. Rather than the horror of the complex traumas of childhood I am writing about the isolation, fear, and confusion of traumas we all face, in one form or another, as we go about living our lives: financial reversals, job loss, chronic and sudden illnesses, divorce and, most disheartening of all, the death of a loved one.
These traumas happen in the daylight while a loss of confidence or shame can drive us into the shadows.
Using vignettes, stories and brief interviews I will offer suggestions to support not only emotional survival skills, but also to enhance resiliency, creativity and a balanced sense of personal responsibility.
I invite your comments, questions and experiences.
I will conclude my "Welcome" by presenting the necessary foundation for coping with adult traumas of all kinds: social connectedness.
- Seek out and talk with trusted friends.
- Share your worries and dreams for a better life as honestly as you can.
- Discuss action steps to recover first and then to realize your dreams and passions. Ask for accountability.
- Practice listening to others. Open yourself to be touched by their feelings, ideas, and experiences.
- Form a "Caring Community" with people you know will stand by you and are reliable. This community would gather in times of adversity and celebration for all involved.
Remember Bill Withers' song "Lean on Me"?
Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend I'll help you carry on.
For it won't be long 'till I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on.
About the Author:
Richard Raubolt, Ph.D. is a psychologist, writer, husband, father and Irish Wolfhound lover.
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