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by Richard B. Patterson, Ph.D.

Let's consider several possible explanations for your relative's problem as this will point somewhat toward different solutions. If your relative's stealing is tied into a compulsion, then he/she probably needs professional help. This compulsive form of stealing may tie into obsessive-compulsive disorder which is a treatable medical problem.

Your relative's stealing may also have an addictive quality to it. He/she may not be addicted to stealing as such but more to the "rush", i.e., the excitement which comes with trying to get away with it. This might best be approached through counselling and possible involvement in a twelve-step program.

Finally, your relative may still because he/she otherwise feels little sense of power in his/her life. Stealing becomes an experience of power, albeit unhealthy power. The reasons behind the sense of powerlessness which may give rise to the stealing need to be explored through counselling, possibly to include family counselling.

Your insight regarding a possible spiritual dynamic is on target. Addictions have a strong spiritual component. Addicts of any sort are looking outside themselves for something to comfort the, make them feel better. To break the back of the addiction, a spiritual solution is often indicated. Where is your relative at as far as God is concerned? Disillusioned? Alienated? Afraid?

In the same sense, the solution to fear and powerlessness is often a spiritual one. Healthy power is based among other things on a good sense of competence and giftedness. What are your relative's strengths? Gifts?

Finally and obviously, if your relative is open to it, prayer, especially healing prayer may at least be a comfort if not an open door.

About the Author:

Richard B. Patterson, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in El Paso, TX. He is the author of three books on psychology and spirituality.