by Dr. Al Cooper and Dr. Coralie Scherer
Whoa! Slow down partner! You have gotten yourself into one of those vicious circles -- the more you want it, the more anxious and pressured you feel and the more overwhelmed and paralyzed you get when a situation with a woman presents itself. In other words you wind up stepping on your own feet.
So the Sex Doctors suggest that you change your goal from making a score to making a friend. Go to places or join activities that you really enjoy, whether it's hiking, politics, or model trains. Then you'll find ready-made topics to bring up and females with ready-made interests in the same (that's why they are there, right?). Find a person and you may eventually find a partner.
About the Author:
Dr. Al Cooper, clinical director at the San Jose Marital and Sexuality Centre (408-248-9737), runs the training program for Counseling and Psychological Services at Stanford University. Dr. Cooper is internationally known for his work in sexuality and is freqently interviewed by the media. He currently writes a column in Men's Health Magazine.
Dr. Coralie Scherer coordinates online services for the Centre and specializes in sexual trauma, women's issues, and marital therapy.
Revised 1/26/09 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.
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