It might help. Divorce mediators are most helpful to couples like you and your wife who cannot reach an agreement on their own. Couples who can reach agreement on issues like child custody and support probably don't need mediation. They can often reach their own agreement, which a lawyer can turn into a legal document. (It is probably best if each is represented by their own attorney even when they both agree on basic terms.)
Parenting issues and financial issues are some of the most common issues addressed by divorce mediators.
How Divorce Mediators Help
- They help you reach a *fair* agreement by helping you generate alternatives
- They help focus on the interests of your children
- They help assist the communication process.
- They insure that any agreement is balanced and fair.
Mediation may not be for you if there is a history of violence in your marriage. Some divorce mediators will still work with such couples, but they will often require that the couple is also in therapy to address those issues. Other divorce mediators refuse to mediate divorces where there is any history of spousal abuse or violence.
Revised 8/11/09 by Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D.
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