At the heart of most people's relationship insecurities is a fear of infidelity. The dishonesty and betrayal can be too much to bear, and a significant portion of marriages end when infidelity is revealed. Infidelity, however, remains common. Slightly under half of men and women admit to at least one instance of unfaithfulness. Infidelity is so common that some marriage and sex experts have argued in favor of loosening the rules. Sex columnist Dan Savage, for example, argues that monogamy shouldn't be a marital deal breaker and that couples should be flexible with their approach to monogamy. The reasons people cheat are as diverse and varied as people themselves, but some common themes run through most infidelity stories.
When you've spent weeks, months, or even years in a state of depression or anxiety, medication can feel like the silver bullet that will knock out all of your problems. But medication decisions in psychiatry are an art as much as they are a science, and what works for one person won't necessarily work for another person. Your doctor might switch your medication, add another medication, or even recommend nutritional changes. If you think your medication might not be working, talk with your psychiatrist and carefully weigh your options.
Anyone who has ever watched a medical drama knows that childbirth can be scary. For most women, though, the fear associated with childbirth diminishes as soon as the baby is born and the pain is gone. Some women even refer to “birth amnesia”: the tendency to forget the pain and stress of childbirth after it's over. But not all women are so lucky. For a few, the trauma of birth can be difficult and lasting, leaving a new mom with symptoms of posttraumatic stress.
Depression can quickly sneak into your brain, chemically turning off previous sources of joy and wonder. Depression cruelly convinces those who experience it that their pain is not really due to depression and that it will never go away. Consequently, it can take months for a person experiencing depression to seek treatment, and depression can be quite severe by that time. Relief can be surprisingly quick for many people, usually with a combination of the right medication and effective therapy. Others, however, have a form of depression called treatment-resistant depression, which is not easily treated with traditional approaches.
Therapy can be uncomfortable and exhausting work, and what you get out of it is often determined by what you put into it. But no matter how hard you work, if your therapist isn't addressing the right issues, you won't begin to resolve them. It's easy to form a strong attachment to your therapist and to relish having an opportunity to open up to someone. Sometimes, though, the immediate emotional release provided by therapy obscures the fact that it's just not working. Many people do face extreme challenges before they get better, but this experience should be short-lived. If you've gone to therapy for months and are only feeling worse, it's probably time to move on.