In my part-time private practice as a Psychologist, a sizable portion of my clientele consists of individuals who are grieving a loss. Their losses can take many different forms. The most frequent types of loss I see are death, the ending of a relationship, or a significant debilitating injury. In some cases, the losses have been of a sudden and traumatic nature. When listening to my patients' experiences, I am so often moved by their strength and resilience in having coped with, and, in many cases, transcended their circumstances.
Before starting to work on confidence, I recommend freeing yourself from the pressure to "be a confident person." Confidence isn't so much a personality trait as how comfortable you feel in particular situations. See for yourself. Take out a piece of paper and write down all the situations you can think of when you feel less confident than you'd like. Now consider everything else you do. Tidying up, watching TV, surfing the Internet....There are dozens of situations you do face confidently. Think, too, if there's been a time when a friend you admired for his/her confidence voiced a problem with a situation you have no trouble with yourself. Even the most outgoing person at the office can freeze up on a first date!
The "Tip of the Tongue" experience is that frustrating experience when the word you are looking for is right on the tip of your tongue, but you just can't seem to get it out. This phenomenon has been studied by scientists for decades. This short article discusses a scientific approach, its conclusions and how to assist your memory recall as you get older.
Explanations for the experience, labeled the "tip-of-the-tongue" or TOT state by researchers who study it, has, up until now, revolved around a blocking theory that suggested that words of similar meaning or sound "blocked" the path of the word you were looking for.
Have you ever heard those words? I have, a million times, and I tried to comply for decades. I thought my sensitivity was preventing me from fitting in and I wanted to be "normal." I couldn't do it, no matter how much I tried. When I pretended to be what I thought was acceptable, I looked foolish. I knew that I couldn't let myself be known for who I really was so I had to develop diversionary techniques. I learned to listen and ask questions and keep the spotlight off me. The relationships which evolved weren't satisfying, but I thought that at some point I would feel safe enough to open up.
Posted on: Can't Sleep? 15 Proven Tips for InsomniaBILL - Sep 1, 2014
Can sleep now after following these tips. Thanks.
Posted on: Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy: Child AbuseJulia 23 - Sep 1, 2014
Thanks. My mother suffers from this. A doctor confronted her when I was three, she stopped taking me to the doctors... She tortured me for years.