One of the most stressful and traumatic life events that parents can endure is the loss of a child. These losses are rarely, if ever, an individual event in which one independently grieves the death, and goes on with the task of living. The death of a child affects each parent to varying degrees, in addition to the surviving children. When a child dies, each individual in the family system must continually strive make sense of, let alone to communicate highly complex emotions. Simultaneously, family members must work at developing healthier and more adaptive ways to cope with the many challenges touched off by this experience.
Now, I don't doubt the necessity of planning out one's day in advance. If we are to be productive, we must consider what needs to get done and how we're going to do it.
Rather, it's how we think about and approach our tasks, duties, and responsibilities - and the level of significance that we ascribe to their completion which can cause some of us considerable anxiety. Ultimately we may forget to do things, choose to ignore our responsibilities, or do them in a haphazard fashion. Even worse, we can become clinically depressed.
In my part-time private practice as a Psychologist, a sizable portion of my clientele consists of individuals who are grieving a loss. Their losses can take many different forms. The most frequent types of loss I see are death, the ending of a relationship, or a significant debilitating injury. In some cases, the losses have been of a sudden and traumatic nature. When listening to my patients' experiences, I am so often moved by their strength and resilience in having coped with, and, in many cases, transcended their circumstances.